MAY 12 -14 2006, PROGRAM HARBIN HOT SPRINGS, CALIFORNIA

   Registration Desk Opens   BP

Newcomer’s Circle: Orienting to Polyamory- Dave Doleshal  CC
Dave and oldtimers gather by the lower pool. Oldtimers and newcomers question each other and share experiences.  This orientation is especially designed for those new to polyamory and/or for those attending their first polyamory conference, - but all are welcome. It's a good place to begin getting your burning questions answered, get your feet wet and begin to get to know your fellow participants at the conference. LP

Welcome, Logistics, Schedule - Janet Kira Lessin,  Dave Doleshal  CC
Etiquette of contact, nudity, quiet areas in Harbin, areas where noise and sexuality's ok, no smoking or fires, keep your cups, etc. outlined.

Pods for Intimate Community, Part 1 - Sasha Lessin, Janet Kira Lessin  CC
It's 4:45 in the afternoon. The carpeted-room at Harbin's Conference Center's huge, curtained and air conditioned. The rug's covered with people in small clusters and pairs--all adults, adults of every size, age and race. Some are snuggling. Most wear clothes, though several are half-naked. A few completely nude. All've been welcomed by World Polyamory Association Board Member Dave Doleshal.  Janet introduces Dr. Sasha Lessin who'll lead icebreakers and get us into intimate support groups (pods) before dinner. Likely we'll eat with at least some of your podmates.

Sasha directs us all to stand and mill around the room, shake each others' hands and gaze in one another's eyes. He says to notice the attractions that arise. Then, based on attractions we feel, he tells us to sit with six to twelve other folks.

The group we choose is our POD. It's the group we tell who we are and what we want. Our pod's the sacred circle of souls who encourage us to get what we want at the conference and in life. We talk now, and will talk tomorrow morning and Sunday, just before the conference ends. We'll talk with our pod mates about what we're learning about ourselves as we explore poly loving.  Pods, then, are small face-to-face primary groups for conference integration. Our pod's a safe space to nourish community consciousness, create intimate, relationships us and our podners––the people in our pod––-can open-up, share what we deeply value and, most importantly, experience loving support for who we are and what we do.

Dinner CC

How We Do Poly - Janet Kira Lessin, Panel, Participants CC
This is a very popular format and often the favorite part of the conference for many. The panel is led by Janet Kira Lessin and includes polys of several varieties and everyone else who wishes to share how they make polyamory work for them. The audience gets to ask questions, so everyone's included. Newbies get valuable answers to begin their poly lives.
 

PolyTantra Puja  - Sasha Lessin, Janet Kira Lessin  CC You ritually chant, send, receive and blend with seven partners, or do all seven rites with a single partner. The rite you do with successive partners flows from the sounds of the Bija Mantra, where each sound awakens a different chakra. One partner, one chakra: security, sensuality, power, love, communication, insight and spirituality awaken. Then you return to your initial partner or a new partner you chose for the entire, kundalini-charged Mantra. Expand your consciousness to one shared with your partner, then to an awareness of the whole poly community at the conference as a loving being with you its parts.

Breakfast  CC

Pods: Intimate Community, Part 2 - Sasha Lessin, Janet Kira Lessin  CC
Sasha leads the entire community though a warm-up exercise, where each person shares her or his name and a motion that the whole group imitates, to get a feeling of what it's like to be that person this morning.  Then we rejoin our pods (or shift pods if we desire) and review what we wanted to get out of this conference, what's happened so far, how we're doing getting what we said we wanted, what we want now and what steps we can take today to get what we want.

Living Compersion: An Experiential and Tantric Workshop - Anastas Harris & Steven Vogue  CC
Compersion is an experience where I am uplifted when my partner is uplifted through experiences that he or she shares with others, including when those experiences involve love and sexuality. It is the acceptance that those you love can love others and the capacity to experience pleasure, and even joy and turn-on, when this occurs. Compersion is essential to Polyamory.

Tantra is a spiritual path that is conducive to compersion and which, if truly lived, flows seamlessly into Polyamory. In this workshop, we begin by revealing how this is so.

Then, in twos, fours and small groups, we move into compersion, Tantra and Poly in a dance that may be playful or soulful, mental or sensual, and that stretch boundaries or provide the opportunity to stretch into already extended boundaries with a variety of individuals or couples. We place you in situations in which you have the opportunity to experience or develop your compersionate nature in an enriching and supportive atmosphere.

Lunch

Three or More in Love - Harold Kornylak, Amber Seitz  CC
An enduring, fulfilling two person partnership is rare enough. Even most animals tend to pair-bond. It’s totally impractical to think of expanding beyond the dyad, perhaps to 3, or 4? In Beyond the Dyad, we explore the unique dynamics when more than two relate. We explore how to keep a triad from being a pair plus one. Gain insight into your relating style and how compatible it is for going beyond the dyad. (Discussion and experiential exercises).

Bisexual Polyamourous Couple Building a Group Marriage - Terry and Paul Brussel-Gibbons and Laura Fiecher LP
Terry and Paul Brussel-Gibbons are a bisexual married couple. They have been involved in the polyamourous lifestyle of multiply committed relationships since their teens. They will share how each of them discovered their bisexuality and how it has affected their experiences in relating to outside lovers together and separately...in bringing special people closer. On June 2, 2001 Terry and Paul were handfasted with Marcus Brussel-Jenkins, and then on November 27, 2005 Laura Brussel-Fiechter joined
the Triad in a four-way handfasting ceremony to create a Quad. Laura will present with them here. They will all be happy to answer questions about how triads/quads work and the effect bisexuality has in this relationship.

Dinner

Compassionate Communication, Conscious Cuddling - Kelly Bryson CC
We use original music and tantra-like puja connecting exercises to create a conscious space. Then Kelly leads an experiential conversation about how to not compromise any of your relationship needs. (because compromise is where you share).  Get into sweet connection with each other’'s needs, instead of polarized by each other's strategies.  Learn consensual morality & transparency to support everyone’s choice for how they need to be loved & to create their own designer relationship.  Practice simple tools to QTIP (Quit taking it personally)& to deliver difficult messages compassionately and without criticism. Recovering your lovejoy when buttons have been pushed.  Recognize and transform the core beliefs that disconnect us from our lovejoy.  Recover and sustain the lovejoy in all your relationships
 

Poly Playshop: Exercises in Authentic Loving - Kamala Devi and Michael McClure

Presenters' Previews: Terry & Paul Brussel-Gibbons, Dave Doleshal, preview presentations they present today. CC
 

Hypnofantasy/Hypnomassage - Terry & Paul Brussel-Gibbons   CC
Hypnosis demonstration shows you how to slay the green eyed monster, release sexual inhibitions which are no longer serving you, and how to share full body multiple orgasms with your partners. Bring your senses alive through guided fantasy, experience the delights of sensual/spiritual connection through orchestrated hypnomassage --for singles, dyads, triads and loving groups. Romantic music heightens the intimacy.

Tantra Ecstacy for Polys - Evelena Rose CC
Learn ancient arts of connection and conscious sensuality that deepen connection with yourself, others, and all of life.  Enhance your capacity for intimacy through safe, sacred, heart-centered interactions.  Discover how breath practices, movement, imagery, and ritual deepen connections, enhance pleasure,
and help you move kundalini through the body. Open to your full sexual aliveness.  An opportunity to experience the depths our breath can open within us.  Brief lecture followed by breathing practice, dyad exercises, and a brief tantric ritual.

Pod Retrospective & Parting Puja - Sasha Lessin, Janet Kira Lessin  CC
We gaze into the eyes of each person in our Harbin poly community, return to our pods to review to what degree we got what we sought here and what we learned.  Then the whole community participates in a ceremony of honoring and appreciation
 

Lunch CC 

 Networking Time CC. 

Enjoy Harbin till 10PM