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We invite you to write how YOU have done poly in the past, how
you're doing it now, and how you'd like to do it in the future.
There are, of course, all kinds of ways to make polyamory work.
My husband Sasha and I only date singles and couples who are
interested in experiencing lovemaking with both of us. We tend
not to sleep with others as we find three or more in a bed is
hot and uncomfortable (we live in the tropics). Sometimes we may
all crash on the living room floor on futons after a lovemaking
session. In general, when I sleep I like to sleep. When I make
love I go for it with total abandon. That can be noisy for those
who chose to sleep in that moment.
Sash and I have a third (male), Shivaya, who just moved in with
us. Shivaya does not share our bed but we do share lovemaking
with him.
We also have lovers who visit as they have very productive lives
and jobs in other cities. We travel a lot so we frequently
rendezvous with them in other cities around the globe. Traveling
as a group is fun.
Our lovers have lovers and we're open to meeting them. Our
numbers change. Not everyone is sexually attracted to one
another but in general we get along minimally as friends.
Cuddling's always nice. Love doesn't take any particular
physical form. We can love many and be very particular about
whom we kiss, cuddle, have sexual contact with and/or make love
with.
Over time many have come and gone. They come for various
reasons; love, sex, friendship, community. They leave for
various reasons; incompatibility, jobs, different climate,
death, etc.
I've learned many things from opening to polyamory. I've
discovered my heart is huge. My capacity unconditional love is
enormous. I love everyone I've ever loved. The numbers of my
loves are legion. Love and involvement are two completely
different things. It's ok if we chose not to live together or
have sex with one another. I'm not responsible for anyone's turn
on. I'm perfect just the way I am. Don't should anyone. Don't
tolerate anyone shoulding you.
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World Polyamory Association 
