Key to Creating Polyamorous Relationships

Would-Be polys write us regularly at the World Polyamory Association with questions about how to attract the additional man, woman or couple to co-create their ideal polyamous life.

All you need do is APPRECIATE WHAT YOU'VE GOT; don't suffer for what you think you lack.

For pairs seeking a third for a triad or other pairs and for moresomes seeking more lovers, appreciate and celebrate those with whom you already in relate and you'll attract candidates for your triad or pod. Bask in joy as you serve and share with the lovers you have.

When potential new lovers see you appreciate and celebrate you extant lovers, your potential newloves get how you uplift yourself in relationships. The right potential poly newbies will want some of that appreciative attention too.

If you're solo now, appreciate yourself–enjoy your life, accept the dance of your inner selves, celebrate your blessings from moment to moment.  When you do, you embody the kind of person potential lovers seek. You need not--whether you be a solo, dyad, triad, pod or network, detract from your joy from lack. You already have everything you need in relationships to completely enjoy yourself in every way. And you welcome further relationship abundance.

Uplevel your addiction to finding someone not yet in your lovergroup to a preference for--but not a suffering-causing addiction to--someone who is not here for you now.

Celebrate who's actually here, even if it's just you. If others join you, you have cornucopia, more than you need, because you already have what you need and you also joyously accept more.

But if you're addicted to finding others for your lovers, then celebrate your addiction too.